have you ever been told that sometimes it’s best to not say anything at all? or been told that you need to stop complaining? chances are that at least once in your lifetime you have been told either one of these phrases or something else similar in nature; basically a hint to just be quiet. i know i have been told those phrases before and honestly i have even used those same words when speaking to others, but what i have come to notice is such phrases also leave us unsure when it is okay to vocalize our feelings (whether that is because we are worried other people will judge us, or simply not care about what we have to say) which makes senses because naturally we as humans want relationships with people. we want to be known, seen, heard, and loved, but when we aren’t it is so easy to push those feelings inside and hold everything in.

been there! done that! and you know i am sure to continue experiencing it. it is natural.

but here is your reminder that holding everything in and trying to fight the battle on your own is no way to live. it is unhealthy and leaves you feeling overwhelmed. which is really how i had been feeling for the past weeks as i recently discussed in previous blog. i had been in my head with all my feelings and believing they weren’t “good enough” reasons to be upset or “good enough” reasons to be worried or “good enough” reasons to be confused so i held on to each one as if i had an unlimited amount of room for them. the thing is the more thoughts i kept in the heavier the load was and although i am strong i am no goddess who has endless powers or muscles. i am human and that means i have limits.

strange enough i didn’t even realize i was keeping so much to myself, until i finally laid it all out. shared every thought no matter how un-put together if felt. laid out my feeling and needs and was respectful and patient when i poured my heart out.

and i kid you not it was as if the load was lifted from me. i don’t recall if i made the connections right then and there, but i definitely felt calmer the days after. keeping things to ourselves may seem best in certain situations, but i really do believe that it is so important to share your thoughts and feelings with someone or multiple someones.

your voice is a powerful force. it is meant to be heard.

truly. what you have to say matters and has value and even if not everyone wants to acknowledge it, don’t let that stop you from speaking up and out. i have done that far too much and it will eat away at you. it is an isolating place that can really play with your mind. not to mention the stress and anxiety it will cause which can further lead to other healthy issues.

reaching out indeed can be a challenge and especially when you feel you don’t have someone to talk to or someone who gets you and responds the way you need, but it is necessary and there are people who are willing to listen. i know i am - always. if you need someone to talk to my email and social media accounts are always open. don’t hesitate to send a message and i will get back to you as soon as possible.